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Great article, Claire. Speaking of 'Unspoken Rules' and dysfunctional / narcissistic family systems: I did a video on this very thing a year or two ago on my YouTube channel - Link to video here, in case you (or anyone here) wants to check it out. https://youtu.be/IfpqW3328HA

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Ooooo i can’t wait to check it out! I will link to it in the article as well.

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And thanks for linking my work in your article, much appreciated.

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That would be great! I forgot I linked it to you here and not via a direct message so ignore the direct message I just sent asking if you got the link.

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In all my years of therapy, I have never had anyone explain the difference between boundaries and rules like this. I have also never had anyone talk about the connection between being able to set boundaries and our values, and what happens when our own values are unclear or get fuzzy. This is exactly what I needed and I am so grateful, Claire, for this article. I will be re-reading this several times. Thank you.

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You are so welcome Michelle! 😘😘

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Thank you! This is an amazing article and so helpful! I love the tie with values and the examples you used!!!

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You are so welcome! I am glad it was helpful.

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So much! Just had an hour long with my therapist on this very topic 😅

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